There’s this idea floating around that the five people you spend the most time with will determine how successful you are. I did a little digging and traced it down to a quote by Jim Rohn, an entrepreneur, and motivational speaker. His exact quote was “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.”
While I don’t think that the influence and math are quite that simple, there is something to this whole idea that the people you spend time with influence your level of success. The important conclusion to draw from this is that it’s important to pay attention to who you spend time with and surround yourself with successful people as much as possible.
You know the inverse is true. When a kid falls in with the “wrong” or “bad” crowd at school, grades drop, and behavior changes for the worse. The opposite is true too. If your child has friends who are working hard and doing well in school, he or she will...
It’s time to tackle an essential but less popular success skill – discipline. Deep down you know that this is an important success skill, but you may also resent working on it. I hope I can change your mind. Discipline is about persistence and seeing things through to the end.
Why Is It Important
It’s easy to get distracted, isn’t it? There are new ideas, diversions, and all sorts of important and unimportant tasks vying for our attention at any given moment. And that doesn’t even include social media. We’re on constant information overload and have to be able to prioritize and focus before we can get anything done. That’s where discipline comes in. It’s nothing more than setting a goal and then persistently working on it until you complete the task.
Without discipline, it’s all too easy to get distracted and find yourself staying busy and “working” all day without any results to show at quitting time. I...
It’s easy to let your day get away from you. Before you know it, it’s quitting time, and you’ve spent all eight hours doing busywork without making any progress. Good time management is all about prioritizing what’s important.
Why Is It Important
It’s easy to stay busy and feel productive. Getting things accomplished and making progress is a different story. That’s why good time management skills are important. You need to know where to spend your time most effectively TODAY to make the most progress. Master this, and you’ll do well at school, work, or in running your own business.
How To Get Started
The best place to start is to pay attention to where you’re spending your time. Keep a journal and start jotting down what you’re doing at any given time during your workday. At the end of the day review what you’ve done and evaluate what was productive and what wasn’t.
It also helps to have a list of...
One of the secrets to success is to set big goals. We have to stretch ourselves and move past our comfort zone to truly become successful. Working towards lofty goals can help us do just that. Of course, that’s easier said than done. The good news is that if you can work on improving two personal traits or skills, it will become much easier. Those skills are focus and discipline. They work hand in hand to help you reach those goals, no matter how far out of reach they seem.
What Is Focus
Being able to focus on is the ability to concentrate on one particular task at a time. It keeps you from getting distracted and helps you make progress on what’s most important. Focus gives you clarity and purpose.
To get better at focusing on the important task at hand, write them down. Limit yourself to three things that you should be working on and accomplish today.
What Is Discipline
Discipline is just as important when it comes to avoiding distractions. It’s the...
I’m tired of hearing about overnight successes, aren’t you? Sure, it makes for a great headline when an unknown band has a hit song, an author hits the bestseller list, or a guy at the office moves up into management in record time. It makes for an interesting story. In an ideal world, we all want to reach our goals and become smashing successes overnight without all the hard work, tears, and sweat. But there’s a problem with that narrative.
Nine times out of ten, that overnight success was decades in the making. We just don’t often hear about it because it’s not the exciting part of the story. The authors who hit it big with their first published book have spent years crafting their skills. They’ve had dozens of manuscripts and drafts rejected before hitting it big with their overnight success. The same goes for your favorite band, actor, director, and even the guy doing what you’re doing, who seems to climb the ladder of success much...
There are a lot of different factors that come into play when it comes to being successful. Today, let’s focus on two of them (being organized and being on time) that can make a huge difference in your day-to-day life. Think back on some of the most successful people you’ve met in your own life. The chances are they were good at both of these - organized and on time. There’s a reason why both of these factors will make such a big difference when it comes to being successful.
Both being on time and organized can help you make the best possible use of your time and energy. When referring to energy, it includes both mental and physical energy. We have a limited supply of both along with being restricted to 24 hours on a given day. In other words, both time and energy are limited resources. What being on time and staying organized helps with is making the most of those resources and focusing them on tasks and activities that help us reach the goals that define success....
We are all given the gift of time, though we each get to choose what we are going to do with that time.
With three active kids, a husband, working, homeschooling some of my kids, and add in some community involvement, it often seems like I'm juggling many balls, hoping I don’t drop one. I’m sure you understand the feeling of just trying to keep your head above water.
When I’m this busy, sometimes I need to pause and consider what I'm involved with.
I need to ask myself some questions…
What is it that's taking up so much of my time? Why am I so busy?
Those things that are taking up my time...even a small commitment... are they what's really important to me?
What are my values and my priorities? Whatever is taking up my time, does it align with my priorities?
Do I need to say “no” to some things? Or pull away from other activities?
I have had to pull away from commitments before. (I really don’t like...
To cultivate an attitude of gratitude, we have to take time from our busy day and remember to give thanks for all the blessings that keep coming our way on a daily basis. Gratitude keeps us focused on what we have rather than all the things we don't have, which keeps us in a victim mentality.
We may not realize that gratitude is a choice and that it doesn't come easily to many of us. Most of us were taught as children to say "thank you" when someone gave us a present or did something nice for us. But after a while, “thank you” can become quite glib unless we learn ways to cultivate the attitude of gratitude. Practicing gratitude is also a skill which is never too late to develop.
Here are some things to keep in mind to develop an attitude of gratitude:
When you are grateful for the things that you have and express gratitude, it takes it to another level and opens the door to feeling optimistic. Optimism is a skill that can be cultivated and one of the...
We’ve heard a lot about getting out of our comfort zones. But have you ever thought about why you should? After all, our comfort zone is where we feel in control and safe. It’s where we can predict what will happen and how we will feel. There won’t be any surprises that we can’t deal with.
So why would you feel compelled or even want to get out of your comfort zone? You need to do it because it's the key to your personal growth and happiness. Stepping out of that zone helps you build up your self-confidence and the way you view yourself.
Is being there holding you back from living a fulfilled life and growing in your career?
The answer is yes! Being in your comfort zone and staying there is keeping you from realizing and achieving what you desire. It's stopping you from being challenged and you don’t have any chance to rise to new occasions, to prove yourself.
Here are 3 ways how staying in your comfort zone is holding you back:
Why do we stay in our comfort zone? Because our comfort zone is the stress-free zone we are used to. It’s what is familiar. It’s also the place where we are the most dissatisfied with our life.
When we stay in our comfort zone, we are forcing ourselves to stay stagnant. We’re afraid to change for fear of what could happen. Our brains are trained to keep us safe so we stay in our comfort zone instead of facing the unknown.
Staying in our comfort zone though can cause problems as well.
Here are 8 reasons it’s wrong to stay in your comfort zone: